I could probably type for hours just on my love for many games but i'm not here to talk bout my love for games yet to talk about my progression through depression and what a awesome subject to write about and to explain why gaming has become a kind of a religion for myself.
It may be a little bit funny how 2.5 years ago, my depression began. I bought my PS4 and I have waited 2 YEARS for Tom Clancy's - The Division to be released.
To simplify it -
Sink's into depression, buys ps4 to get some alone time and stay away from the fear of people, wait's patiently for the game that has inspired to write this. Coincidence much?
Playstation - I 100% think this has been a god send. From the start of my journey to where I am now and I’m extremely happy to tell you why!
Playstation - I 100% think this has been a god send. From the start of my journey to where I am now and I’m extremely happy to tell you why!
Many people think gammers have no lives. We sit in front a box day in day out, we have no friends and so much more. Ohh, how small minded these people are and let me tell you why I think so other than insults can actually hurt.
The PS4 has taught me so many life skills I never new I had in me.
Many people struggle with this (apparently) simple language we call English. With childhood ADD I never wanted to read or write. I wanted to play Soccer & Cricket with the boys, give the ladies (or girls at the time) boy germs and always aim for fun, fun, fun. I mean I would literally fall asleep in my family TOYBOX. Even as a child, I would party harder when I wasn't meant to and partied till I couldn't party no more. With all this funI didn't have time to read. I didn't want to.
This is something I have struggled & been teased about my whole life but TODAY, today I am now writing a blog to edited.
Since, buying the ps4 it became a passion. I always wanted to be up to date. What's the new games coming out, new tech updates, I joined communities to get other peoples thoughts on things, game tutorial instructions (in which I would have to read over and over at time's). What am I now constantly doing in which i didn't as a child?
Read, read and more reading.
I am always reading new information provided to me and majority of the time I am pretty up to date to what I like to think anyway. Reading game tutorials over and over so I understand what I am doing through out the game. The fact I am constantly reading. It is now becoming a lot easier. That's right. PLAYSTATION has helped teach me, at the age of 28 what it would teach majority of people in primary school.
Don't get me wrong. I am defiantly still learning but my word what an achievement.
When feeling depression or anxiety. I cant do anything. I either hate myself to much or I feel like the word is caving in to point where it becomes a struggle to breath. Through out this time for so long. I blamed many others for MY problems but that's just it. Life's simple problems. Games is nothing but problems. While playing a game I need to solve these problems in order to move forward and level up.
As I started to play 1p games. I learnt to take accountably for my actions. I simply cant blame anyone for a game I am playing and you can't really blame a bot can ya? This changed my mindset to stop blaming others and to looking into my own actions and to really think about what I am doing in order to move forward.
Problem-solving is an everyday skill, I simply won't level up if I run straight into it.
With many hours of gaming. This has taught me so much. Most gamers will know that anger that becomes when when a puzzle becomes a dam right annoyance and think this is impossible to point the controller is squeezed tight and the controller in hand raises behind the head getting ready to launch the anger away but before the controller is thrown there is that moment of thought "fuck, they cost $99.99 and I also can't go day without out it" kicks in. That deep breath is made as the shoulder lowers, that positive thought seeps in saying "take a breath mate, you are losing your patience and not taking anything in, slow down, deep breath, batman can do it, restart, do it again & think about what you are doing and go slow, take as much time as you need & restart if you need to as you will only learn more each time".
With many hours of gaming. This has taught me so much. Most gamers will know that anger that becomes when when a puzzle becomes a dam right annoyance and think this is impossible to point the controller is squeezed tight and the controller in hand raises behind the head getting ready to launch the anger away but before the controller is thrown there is that moment of thought "fuck, they cost $99.99 and I also can't go day without out it" kicks in. That deep breath is made as the shoulder lowers, that positive thought seeps in saying "take a breath mate, you are losing your patience and not taking anything in, slow down, deep breath, batman can do it, restart, do it again & think about what you are doing and go slow, take as much time as you need & restart if you need to as you will only learn more each time".
I now use this technique with problems of life. I breathe, slow down, think 2 sides, really take the time to understand the problem in order to solve it.
If you are thinking to yourself. Does he say "batman can do it" in his head over and over?
If you are thinking to yourself. Does he say "batman can do it" in his head over and over?
Well, first of all, ARE YOU IDIOT?
And second, Of course, I do YOU IDIOT!!!
Social skills is something that lost through depression. I locked myself away for a long time. I didn't want to do anything. I simply couldn’t deal with outside world. This alone is a scary factor. The fear of people, drama, failing and so much more to be scared of the challenges from outside world provides. Once again again, this every day skill is not used and I forgot how to fit in. This is coming from the party animal I was. I couldn't fit in anywhere.
Social skills are something I had always been very talented at. I LOVED people and people LOVED me but this faded fast.
Social skills are something I had always been very talented at. I LOVED people and people LOVED me but this faded fast.
Gaming is what helped me relearning this skill. I didn't want to talk to people while playing cause I couldn't hold a conversation let alone advise on how to play a game but with games that are played now. In order to get through to the next stage we really need to talk about the action of the game play. I started slowly with 1 person at time and now (to what has been told) I am ‘Clan Slut’ connecting with a few groups, discussing much and just having normal conversations. This has help me in many way’s. I can now hold a phone conversations with a friend when I would never even answer the phone due to the thought of what does this person want from me and how do I say "I cant help myself so how do I help You"?
I understand better ways to word things and provide a better understanding of the person I am speaking with and the biggest thing I learnt is talking to others is not scary at all!!!
With all these social skill’s now learnt. I move to next lesson gaming has given me.
TEAM WORK!!!
Let's look at soccer for instance. We all have know that guy in younger years that think's he is better than the team. He will hog the ball and attempt to score solo. I always hated these people. Awesome dude, you may be good but you also have 30% - 40% chance of scoring with the defenders and goalie ahead. Good luck champ. Go for you it! I never and still don't understand the logic in this game play. Why not pass the ball to someone who is open and create a 75% - 90% of of scoring WITH YOUR TEAM!!!
Yet another thing I have always been fan-fucking-tastic at but completely forgot how as everything became about me. "Why am I here, what is this, am I going through a mid life crisis, I hate myself, I don't get it" and more questions that are constantly asked. As everything was about me. Team work became nearly impossible.
With the games I now love playing such as Tom Clancy’s Rainbow 6 Siege and The Division are very tactical games where I simply will not get through on a hard difficulty flying solo and a good chunk of times on a normal difficulty.I attempted a lot of times to play with no mic but if you can not communicate with your team how do you work together to succeed? It is pretty damned hard.
This skill has improved many others as well.
Listening - If I don't listen to my team mate/s. I/we fail. From there again I would slow down, listen to what is being advised and learn from it, understand it. I then learnt how to provide my thoughts or opinions to what is being said and from OUR plan of attack. We will make it work. This skill is now used everyday as well.
Listening - If I don't listen to my team mate/s. I/we fail. From there again I would slow down, listen to what is being advised and learn from it, understand it. I then learnt how to provide my thoughts or opinions to what is being said and from OUR plan of attack. We will make it work. This skill is now used everyday as well.
How to talk to people in a way THEY understand. Sometimes I would need to explain things a few times. This thought me that many people take information in many different ways. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!
In sale’s role on the phone. This has helped me in many way’s insides of work and in everyday life. A massive part of sales role is listening and understanding. Listening to customers wants and needs. Then understanding in order to provide the service possible.
Another life skill that gaming has taught me is patience.
Another life skill that gaming has taught me is patience.
Patience is a skill I never really had. As mentioned earlier I would always rush into into things and not understand them. In a way I was setting myself up to fail with this action. With wanting to understand games to create a better experience while playing. Some games take some time to understand such as the Metal Gear Solid and The Division. Some serious RPG gamin in a open world with much upgrades, mission’s to understand an complete, technical structures that really make these games work. For myself these type of games were never really a thing for me but as it works the mind in so many way’s they have become a new love. My experience with these games have come a long way and patience has been they key loving them.
Metal Gear Solid Solid was released early 2015. The first time playing this game I was stunned by how amazing the gameplay was. I played for a good week or two before putting the controller down and moving to the next game. Why I moved on was because the game was tricky and at the time I didn't have the patience to read or get the understanding. I just wanted to shoot, shoot, and shoot!!! I have not finished this game due to not having the patience but it is a game that I have never traded in and will come back to with all the new tools I have learnt.
Through Co-op or Team play, I have noticed a difference positive and negative talk.
This is something I must thank the Shoot N Repeat guys for.
I guess this something unknown to these guys. When I play with them it has helped me inside the PlayStation Network and in everyday life
While playing with these guys, Negative comments are un heard of.
Everything said is a push forward. "Well played, good work, NICE and more as well as using the applause in-game motion to congratulate everyone upon completing a mission.
Everything said is a push forward. "Well played, good work, NICE and more as well as using the applause in-game motion to congratulate everyone upon completing a mission.
With this talk through game play. The missions are ALWAYS COMPLETED!!! I have played with other clans or groups and completion of a mission will take a lot longer. First of all Team work is a must but also negative comments suck and when I hear negative comments, it pulls me down and the give up thought process begins!!!
say to yourself "You're fucking awesome and you can do this"
say to yourself "You're fucking awesome and you can do this"
Yep, that's right. "I fucking am and thank you"
Now say to yourself "You're shit and you can't do it"
Not a nice feeling, is it?
This has taught to turn negatives into positives. No matter what the situation. I guess this is understanding 2 sides as well and many times in everyday life it simply is what it is but as shit as it may be there is always a positive. It may be pretty poop for me but whatever it is may be great for someone else. Not everything is always the best for myself but if it helps other's or people I love. I will jump in and provide as much help as possible in order to push this person/people forward.
This has taught to turn negatives into positives. No matter what the situation. I guess this is understanding 2 sides as well and many times in everyday life it simply is what it is but as shit as it may be there is always a positive. It may be pretty poop for me but whatever it is may be great for someone else. Not everything is always the best for myself but if it helps other's or people I love. I will jump in and provide as much help as possible in order to push this person/people forward.
Helping and supporting friend was something many people noticed and loved about me. I would always be for my mates even if it puts me out.
In the last 2 years (as my close friends would know) I have failed at this. Since 2016, I have started to support my friends again, be there for them again when needed again.
How my though process began for this is because I am on higher level in a game does not mean don't support your friend but to jump in and help them out, level them up faster, get there upgrades up so we can both enjoy more of the game. It's really much the same with supporting people. Just because I am a good stage in my life (even through out depression) doesn't mean others I care about don't need help with something to move forward in their own progress.
From starting to do this again, I have realised that this was always a happiness within me. That feeling you get with helping someone accomplish their own goals is a personal achievement in it's self. it is rewarding within the mind and soul and I hope this is something I can not only recreate in my life but also learn more in order to help more people.
Now that I have provided an understanding of why video games have helped me progress to where I am today, I would like to tell you why I relate my life to video games.
In the last 2 years (as my close friends would know) I have failed at this. Since 2016, I have started to support my friends again, be there for them again when needed again.
How my though process began for this is because I am on higher level in a game does not mean don't support your friend but to jump in and help them out, level them up faster, get there upgrades up so we can both enjoy more of the game. It's really much the same with supporting people. Just because I am a good stage in my life (even through out depression) doesn't mean others I care about don't need help with something to move forward in their own progress.
From starting to do this again, I have realised that this was always a happiness within me. That feeling you get with helping someone accomplish their own goals is a personal achievement in it's self. it is rewarding within the mind and soul and I hope this is something I can not only recreate in my life but also learn more in order to help more people.
Now that I have provided an understanding of why video games have helped me progress to where I am today, I would like to tell you why I relate my life to video games.
Gaming is full of failures & fun. It is a constant push forward to complete. It just a simple fact!
Restarts are made and many of them at times.
Restarts are made and many of them at times.
Games challenges compared to life's challenges are much the same. We set our self up to fail (in much ways that are already been said)
Within a game, we restart & rethink. In many of life's challenges we need to do the same. I have used the 'understanding' many times but that what restarting is. We restart as we learn each time we do, each time we get more and more of a understanding of the challenge. It doesn't matter if it's 1 restart or 20. The only thing that matters is that constant progression and make sure every lifeline provided is used wisely. If we run in to with no understanding, no change, It's simply a waste of a life. If nothing is learnt, even if we have million restarts it does not change the fact time is valuable. I would rather to take that extra time to understand and learn from the situation rather then jumping in with balls out. It will only take that much longer and life is short and with in a game I don't waste my time with it simply because there are so many more that come out and i can't wait to complete this game and move onto the next one and I get the same enjoyment with life tasks!
Also remember, Games are made by everyday regular people. How do you think these games have become such a social, enjoyable environment?
All these traits have been created from experience, life lessons, research and skill.
Every day is a new day with unknown challenges to be thrown my way. I then need to learn to adjust with every skill learnt and still learning and create a positive mindset and I will finish this game just as I am accomplishing and will win at LIFE!
Life is Like A Game
Within a game, we restart & rethink. In many of life's challenges we need to do the same. I have used the 'understanding' many times but that what restarting is. We restart as we learn each time we do, each time we get more and more of a understanding of the challenge. It doesn't matter if it's 1 restart or 20. The only thing that matters is that constant progression and make sure every lifeline provided is used wisely. If we run in to with no understanding, no change, It's simply a waste of a life. If nothing is learnt, even if we have million restarts it does not change the fact time is valuable. I would rather to take that extra time to understand and learn from the situation rather then jumping in with balls out. It will only take that much longer and life is short and with in a game I don't waste my time with it simply because there are so many more that come out and i can't wait to complete this game and move onto the next one and I get the same enjoyment with life tasks!
Also remember, Games are made by everyday regular people. How do you think these games have become such a social, enjoyable environment?
All these traits have been created from experience, life lessons, research and skill.
Every day is a new day with unknown challenges to be thrown my way. I then need to learn to adjust with every skill learnt and still learning and create a positive mindset and I will finish this game just as I am accomplishing and will win at LIFE!
Life is Like A Game
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